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A well nourished journey - jsue6 - 08-23-2016 09:13 PM

I have posted on her a couple of times in the past. I've visited the site on and off for a while now.

A little history:
I have battled body image issues since I was quite small. I was probably 5 when my dad and stepmom wanted to put me on a diet. I wasn't as thin as my older sister but probably fine for a 5 yo. I battled a bit of blue is in high school. In college I got down to 126lb at 5'8". I loved the way it felt. Most of my 20's an early 30's my weight stayed in the 130-138 range. I had seen a "nutritionist" who put me on a candida diet. After that I was obsessive about food. I eventually found Matt Stone after my 3rd baby at age 35. I quit obsessing and gained up to about 145-150. When I became pregnant with baby #4 we entered a very stressful season. I was close to 200 at his birth, lost a bit and then gained up to 200 again which is where I am 4 years later.

After my last birth I had many physical issues and had a lot of pain. I homeschool my kids and two have learning differences so it can be all consuming. I have recently realized I need to be OK saying no to people (including/especially my kids) in order to make sure I am caring for myself spiritually, emotionally, and physically. In addition to feeling like I'm on the verge of melting down I recently had a physical. I found out I have low iron stores, low b12, very low vitamin d and a1c levels in the pre-diabetic range. My last 3 babies were over 9 lbs with my last on at 10lb 7 oz so I could have been borderline gestational diabetic.

I am currently walking daily but have not managed to carve out the time for weight lifting. I am trying to make changes in my life/schedule to accommodate some self care. I've been tracking on mfp most days. I typically eat under my TDEE based on my Fitbit. I have a hard time getting enough protein in. I struggle with getting obsessive when I track and then I end up binging...which is what has happened the past few days. I am wondering if I am eating too low still. I try to post a few days of calorie input vs output later.

RE: A well nourished journey - AnitraSoto - 08-24-2016 07:12 AM

What I would do that this point is to simply try to concentrate on ONE thing. You may find that to be less overwhelming. When you try to concentrate on or change too many things at once you are setting yourself up for failure. So the things you mentioned were: tracking, walking, weight lifting, hitting your protein goal and increasing your intake. Rather that trying to tackle all of those at once, prioritize and pick on and work on it until it becomes habit, and then move on and pick another. If I were you, I would simply start with tracking. Track your intake so at least you have a starting point (you don't even have to change anything intake-wise. Just track). Once you are comfortable tracking, then figure out your TDEE and start increasing your intake gradually. Once you have gotten your intake where it needs to be, then concentrate on hitting that protein macro. Introduce some moderate walking, but save the weight lifting until you are comfortable with the other changes first... To me, it just sounds as though all of the changes are overwhelming you, and you just need to break things down into small, attainable goals :-)

RE: A well nourished journey - KatiAuchinleck - 08-24-2016 05:28 PM

Welcome! Pay attention to Anitra, she knows her stuff!

I will repeat though...one thing at a time. It's the only way to manage it without feeling overwhelmed. This is not short term work. Be ready for a long term commitment. It is is worth every single step!

RE: A well nourished journey - Jc_wt - 08-24-2016 06:06 PM

Hi and welcome!

I am a home school mom too!

Anitra has great advice. No need to rush. Introducing one thing at a time will help it stick in the long run. The time will pass anyway.

RE: A well nourished journey - hannah77 - 08-24-2016 11:21 PM

Hi there! Nothing much to add as Anitra always breaks the process down to something simple, understandable, and manageable. She will not steer you wrong!

This actually happened a couple months before I started with EM2WL, but I used to be absolutely horrendous at drinking water, just hated it. But, I was in a weight management course and one of the first things they talked about was ensuring intake of at least 8 glasses of water. That was a big task for me as, although I did drink coffee and tea, was probably only drinking maybe 1-2 glasses a day (on a good day!) There were a lot of other things they talked about, but that was my first goal. And, it wasn't easy. I had to break it down every meal in order to get there. But, after a couple weeks it became easier and now five months later, it's become habit. Which freed me mentally to move on to the next goal.

Be kind to yourself! It sounds like you have been through a lot in the past several years. You mentioned you are trying to make changes in your life/schedule to accommodate some self care. As the others above have mentioned, this is a long term journey and process...you don't have to and shouldn't try to make it all work right away. In addition to people, it's okay to say "no" to things realizing that you do need time to self care, self love, and self heal. There is a lot of discussion about lifting heavy...it may or may not happen for you or for me, but this process can still work. I'm still a newbie (been at this for about 3 months now ), still trying to nail down my TDEE, but due to many issues (some physical, some current priorities), I just do some basic strength training at home with resistance bands and walking is great! I'm fine not having an extensive weight lifting regime right now. I can re-examine that aspect of my journey down the road. I just started back to college (at 46, 19 years after my last degree) and have had to give serious consideration to reducing my activity level because I'll just stretch myself too thin and not succeed at anything or have any fun. We are so hard on ourselves, sometimes that is the first lesson we need to learn, just to relax the reins a little and enjoy life as it is right now.

There are lots of wonderful, caring people on this forum. There is so much experience! We are all unique and so are our journeys, but you will always find someone who has experienced something similar to you who will come alongside and cheer you on!

Looking forward to hearing about your progress.

RE: A well nourished journey - KatiAuchinleck - 08-28-2016 01:45 PM

Oh, Hannah, I like that! "relax the reins and enjoy life as it is right now." That's an amazing viewpoint!

RE: A well nourished journey - jsue6 - 09-04-2016 02:02 PM

Thank you ladies for your responses. I have been focusing on tracking and the. Got a stomach bug which derailed me for a bit. I will post my calories in/out soon. I don't have it handy now. I am also walking consistently at least once a day because we have a puppy who HAS to go on a walk.

Good to know I'm not the only homeschooler on here. My biggest struggle as a homeschooler is remembering how important it is to take care of myself. That's my no 1 goal right now.

RE: A well nourished journey - hannah77 - 09-05-2016 01:58 AM

Good to hear from you and walking with the puppy is fantastic. Kind of like a compound exercise with weights...or killing two birds with one stone. I love meeting and greeting all the pups we encounter on our walks. Hope you've gotten over the bug. Like your walking, this journey is just one step at a time. happy

RE: A well nourished journey - Jc_wt - 09-05-2016 10:08 PM

It is hard. I have been learning as I go. Adjusting to a new baby and homeschooling at the same time really started my path to self-care. Everything was a mess- my body (overweight, tired, sick all of the time), finances, etc. I started with exercises, then decluttered my entire life, now fueling my body properly. happy

RE: A well nourished journey - jsue6 - 03-05-2017 11:01 PM

Wow! I didn't realize how long it had been since I posted. I started You Are Your Own Gym in December and two workouts in I injured my back....not while working out but probably related to the workout. I have a history of back injury and now have virtually no disc material between L4 and L5. I know what to do and what not to do but sometimes I forget to listen to my body.

I have finally started back with YAYOG and I'm substituting my own core exercises because I need to take it easy on those. I've taken before measurements and pictures. I'm not looking at the scale or measurements for at least a month.