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Slowly Eating more for 6+ months, 15lbs gained...when will it reverse?
04-02-2014, 08:37 AM
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Slowly Eating more for 6+ months, 15lbs gained...when will it reverse?
Hi there! Brand new to this site after looking for others going through metabolic recovery. Short story- restrictive/binge/purge for 7-8 years, a 5'1 female, 29 years old, maintained weight at 12-1300 calories and 125lbs during that restrictive time frame. Finally got my act together and have been working with a trainer for little over 6 months, gradually increasing my calories while heavy lifting 4x week. I have gained nearly 15lbs and on my small frame it feels huge! Many of my pants/skirts are too tight and I am feeling very discouraged. I understand it my take time, especially with my 7-8 years of restrictive/ED history, but how long? 6 months and I feel like I should be on the path to fat loss and weight loss now...these 15lbs is very uncomfortable. Any thoughts? Those that have taken months longer for their metabolism to recover? Thank you for your insight!
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04-02-2014, 02:20 PM
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RE: Slowly Eating more for 6+ months, 15lbs gained...when will it reverse?
Hello! I don't have good advice as I am in the exact same boat and want you to know you are not alone. I am on here frequently looking for advice and support. I have a restrictive past and I am 37. I am 5'2" and gained 10 pounds during reset and as I also feel very uncomfortable. I am wondering if I have food intolerances to dairy and/wheat because I bloat so much after eating almost anything. I have been attempting to cut since Jan and have not lost anything. Sad I also feel so discouraged. I think I may have gotten too OCD with numbers and after eating more during the reset I am having a hard time reigning in my appetite. So I think I may have dropped my calories too low, saw no changes, got discouraged and then overate, etc. It is a vicious cycle. So now I am trying to calm down about the entire thing. It seems when you don't eat enough your body freaks and won't let you lose. I am trying to eat as close to what I think my TDEE is and then I will drop a little, like 100 calories at a time to try the cut again. It is frustrating I know. After 7 or so years of your past your body probably needs more time to heal. Try to be patient. That is what people on here tell me and what I see when I read about this. Are you cutting now or still eating at TDEE. I hear the longer you can go eating at TDEE the better.
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04-06-2014, 06:34 PM
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RE: Slowly Eating more for 6+ months, 15lbs gained...when will it reverse?
Hi & welcome!!

So happy that you found us, and that you've found a trainer that has you lifting heavy!!

I'm the same height as you ladies, and to say that I understand the effects of gaining just the tiniest bit of weight on a small frame is an understatement.

With 7-8 years of ED history, I'd have to say that 6 months is no where near enough time for healing. I wouldn't expect anything even remotely noticeable for a minimum of 9-12 months (for expedited healing). I know that is not what you want to hear, but it's nearly impossible to heal that amount of damage in such a short time. There will obviously be plenty of other benefits that will occur well before you're completely healed, but try as best you can to not try to rush the fat loss aspect.

I took about 6-9 months to reset, and I was coming from about half the amount of time of restrictive diet time that you have. I don't want to scare you, or entice you to run back to the "old" ways, but I just want to give you a realistic view point, so that you don't stress yourself out looking for miraculous changes at every turn, and releasing enough cortisol to keep them at bay even longer.

I will say that the sooner you relax into this process, and begin to love your body for where it is right now (even though it seems uncomfortable), the sooner you'll begin to notice some of the awesome positive changes. As for the discomfort, I would say try your best to NOT feel so uncomfy with it. Not saying that you want to give up and accept being a higher weight, but you should at least have clothes that fit and flatter you *right now*

There's nothing that adds to that discomfort factor faster than trying to wear your old "starvation" clothes. Set them aside for now, and find some things that you absolutely love and adore, and that make you look amazing NOW. The time will pass either way, and trust me, feeling like "you" will be a lot easier if you're not trying to squeeze into clothes that remind you and the world that you've gained weight. The right clothes -- even if a larger size -- will even make you look smaller than trying to force yourself into smaller sizes.

Besides the fact that now that you are lifting, certain items will "feel" too tight or make you think you're way bigger than you are simply due to how they fit. For instance, as your butt begins to sit higher from the squats, etc., you'll think that your hip measurement is growing, and notice that your pants don't fit. That's only because your rise on your jeans may be too low for your new bootay dimensions. wink So in that case, you'd either need to size up for that same rise to fit over that high round bum, or find the old size in a higher rise.

I can't stress enough that wearing clothes that make you feel great (rather than forcing yourself in clothes that depress you) will make a load of difference. You will stress less, which means you will hinder your healing less.

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04-08-2014, 08:00 AM
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RE: Slowly Eating more for 6+ months, 15lbs gained...when will it reverse?
(04-06-2014 06:34 PM)Kiki Wrote:  Hi & welcome!!

So happy that you found us, and that you've found a trainer that has you lifting heavy!!

I'm the same height as you ladies, and to say that I understand the effects of gaining just the tiniest bit of weight on a small frame is an understatement.

With 7-8 years of ED history, I'd have to say that 6 months is no where near enough time for healing. I wouldn't expect anything even remotely noticeable for a minimum of 9-12 months (for expedited healing). I know that is not what you want to hear, but it's nearly impossible to heal that amount of damage in such a short time. There will obviously be plenty of other benefits that will occur well before you're completely healed, but try as best you can to not try to rush the fat loss aspect.

I took about 6-9 months to reset, and I was coming from about half the amount of time of restrictive diet time that you have. I don't want to scare you, or entice you to run back to the "old" ways, but I just want to give you a realistic view point, so that you don't stress yourself out looking for miraculous changes at every turn, and releasing enough cortisol to keep them at bay even longer.

I will say that the sooner you relax into this process, and begin to love your body for where it is right now (even though it seems uncomfortable), the sooner you'll begin to notice some of the awesome positive changes. As for the discomfort, I would say try your best to NOT feel so uncomfy with it. Not saying that you want to give up and accept being a higher weight, but you should at least have clothes that fit and flatter you *right now*

There's nothing that adds to that discomfort factor faster than trying to wear your old "starvation" clothes. Set them aside for now, and find some things that you absolutely love and adore, and that make you look amazing NOW. The time will pass either way, and trust me, feeling like "you" will be a lot easier if you're not trying to squeeze into clothes that remind you and the world that you've gained weight. The right clothes -- even if a larger size -- will even make you look smaller than trying to force yourself into smaller sizes.

Besides the fact that now that you are lifting, certain items will "feel" too tight or make you think you're way bigger than you are simply due to how they fit. For instance, as your butt begins to sit higher from the squats, etc., you'll think that your hip measurement is growing, and notice that your pants don't fit. That's only because your rise on your jeans may be too low for your new bootay dimensions. wink So in that case, you'd either need to size up for that same rise to fit over that high round bum, or find the old size in a higher rise.

I can't stress enough that wearing clothes that make you feel great (rather than forcing yourself in clothes that depress you) will make a load of difference. You will stress less, which means you will hinder your healing less.

Thank you so much, Kiki. It is defintely hard to accept this higher weight, but I did indeed get new clothes that fit and I look so much better! Never thought of my bootay and the new dimension affecting pant size that much- it is definitely bigger in a good way and according to my friend- defies gravity!

I don't want to go back to the old ways, and I think what you said makes sense- I can't expect immediate results with years of disordered eating fighting back. I think stress and cortisol are huge and I really have to accept the process even if it takes a little longer than I want it to.

Thank you for letting me know it will take time! I guess I must practice more patience and learn to love my body as it is- and let it do its healing magic! It deserves that much!
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08-15-2014, 06:50 PM
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RE: Slowly Eating more for 6+ months, 15lbs gained...when will it reverse?
(04-08-2014 08:00 AM)Shortqtpie Wrote:  
(04-06-2014 06:34 PM)Kiki Wrote:  Hi & welcome!!

So happy that you found us, and that you've found a trainer that has you lifting heavy!!

I'm the same height as you ladies, and to say that I understand the effects of gaining just the tiniest bit of weight on a small frame is an understatement.

With 7-8 years of ED history, I'd have to say that 6 months is no where near enough time for healing. I wouldn't expect anything even remotely noticeable for a minimum of 9-12 months (for expedited healing). I know that is not what you want to hear, but it's nearly impossible to heal that amount of damage in such a short time. There will obviously be plenty of other benefits that will occur well before you're completely healed, but try as best you can to not try to rush the fat loss aspect.

I took about 6-9 months to reset, and I was coming from about half the amount of time of restrictive diet time that you have. I don't want to scare you, or entice you to run back to the "old" ways, but I just want to give you a realistic view point, so that you don't stress yourself out looking for miraculous changes at every turn, and releasing enough cortisol to keep them at bay even longer.

I will say that the sooner you relax into this process, and begin to love your body for where it is right now (even though it seems uncomfortable), the sooner you'll begin to notice some of the awesome positive changes. As for the discomfort, I would say try your best to NOT feel so uncomfy with it. Not saying that you want to give up and accept being a higher weight, but you should at least have clothes that fit and flatter you *right now*

There's nothing that adds to that discomfort factor faster than trying to wear your old "starvation" clothes. Set them aside for now, and find some things that you absolutely love and adore, and that make you look amazing NOW. The time will pass either way, and trust me, feeling like "you" will be a lot easier if you're not trying to squeeze into clothes that remind you and the world that you've gained weight. The right clothes -- even if a larger size -- will even make you look smaller than trying to force yourself into smaller sizes.

Besides the fact that now that you are lifting, certain items will "feel" too tight or make you think you're way bigger than you are simply due to how they fit. For instance, as your butt begins to sit higher from the squats, etc., you'll think that your hip measurement is growing, and notice that your pants don't fit. That's only because your rise on your jeans may be too low for your new bootay dimensions. wink So in that case, you'd either need to size up for that same rise to fit over that high round bum, or find the old size in a higher rise.

I can't stress enough that wearing clothes that make you feel great (rather than forcing yourself in clothes that depress you) will make a load of difference. You will stress less, which means you will hinder your healing less.

Thank you so much, Kiki. It is defintely hard to accept this higher weight, but I did indeed get new clothes that fit and I look so much better! Never thought of my bootay and the new dimension affecting pant size that much- it is definitely bigger in a good way and according to my friend- defies gravity!

I don't want to go back to the old ways, and I think what you said makes sense- I can't expect immediate results with years of disordered eating fighting back. I think stress and cortisol are huge and I really have to accept the process even if it takes a little longer than I want it to.

Thank you for letting me know it will take time! I guess I must practice more patience and learn to love my body as it is- and let it do its healing magic! It deserves that much!

Thank you for posting this and Kiki thank you for the response. I needed to hear this today. I have definitely gained weight but I know I am much stronger. I have 5ft 1inch and pounds show up quickly on the outside and in our clothes. I am going to take your advice and buy some bigger clothes. I refuse to go back to my old ways. Whenever I feel like I want to give up I read through these forums - they always help me to stay the course.
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08-15-2014, 08:02 PM
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RE: Slowly Eating more for 6+ months, 15lbs gained...when will it reverse?
This is a great thread for everybody who is frustrated with how seemingly slow the process can be. Note in Kiki's response, she is talking *months*, not *weeks*.... When we abuse our bodies for years on end, we can't expect them to recover and respond "by the books" until they are truly given a chance to heal. Great reminder!

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09-25-2014, 01:50 PM
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RE: Slowly Eating more for 6+ months, 15lbs gained...when will it reverse?
I'm experience the same thing--been eating more for 2 months, using the New Rules of Weight Lifting for 1 month, working on balancing my carbs-fat-protein at 50-20-30, and still gaining. I am at my highest weight ever, and unlike previous times gaining weight, I am really apple shaped. Any advice on what to check while we are waiting? A check list of how to stay in this phase until I start losing?
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10-07-2014, 03:10 AM
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RE: Slowly Eating more for 6+ months, 15lbs gained...when will it reverse?
(04-02-2014 08:37 AM)Shortqtpie Wrote:  Hi there! Brand new to this site after looking for others going through metabolic recovery. Short story- restrictive/binge/purge for 7-8 years, a 5'1 female, 29 years old, maintained weight at 12-1300 calories and 125lbs during that restrictive time frame. Finally got my act together and have been working with a trainer for little over 6 months, gradually increasing my calories while heavy lifting 4x week. I have gained nearly 15lbs and on my small frame it feels huge! Many of my pants/skirts are too tight and I am feeling very discouraged. I understand it my take time, especially with my 7-8 years of restrictive/ED history, but how long? 6 months and I feel like I should be on the path to fat loss and weight loss now...these 15lbs is very uncomfortable. Any thoughts? Those that have taken months longer for their metabolism to recover? Thank you for your insight!

Hi! im probably replying way to late after you posted this. I'm sure you are now at a different place. But for what it's worth: just think about the 6 months you've been at it! yes, you're gaining but overall think that it's almost over and the worst part already happened (your clothes are tighter)... just think that this is something you need to do to be healthy, your body deserves it.
Plus if you're working with a trainer , do you share with him what you're feeling? perhaps there needs to be a more gradual increase of calories? also are you measuring by weight only? how about inches? fat percentage? After all the number on the scale should probably not be too important right at this point as it could be water retention, etc.

Good luck with what you're doing and whatever you do don't go back to that place.....throw away all your triggers (as they're not the present, they're the past and a very unhealthy one to say the least) think of healthy triggers: healthy images, beautiful "normal" sized clothes, try to see the beauty in "imperfection".

I never suffered from an ED but i do believe that most of us girls have a very distorted/disordered view of ourselves and of beauty and health. Like you however, I am trying to get out of unhealthy eating and an unhealthy way of wanting to be "thin" or "fit".
i know know that one can be thin and healthy, one can achieve losses in fat percentages through the proper nutrition AND hard work (training). Unfortunately, going the healthy route is the longest and hardest route and who wants to waste time on that ?! *sarcasm here* most of us want to see results rapidly and we fall victim to the old adage of "eat less+ excersise more= skinny! yay!" .....

I'd like to hear how things are going for you now. Just keep at it. Work hard, ignore the unhealthy messages/triggers/images, be you, be strong. you are perfect. you should know that. :-)

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i will start training/nutrition with a coach this friday too, so...here i go
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