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Scared out of my Mind!
08-20-2014, 04:28 AM
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Scared out of my Mind!
Hey. My name is Kelly. I'm going to be 28 next month and I have been struggling with my weight for a while now, since highschool at least. I weigh 220 pounds and I'm 5'7. I'm not overly big despite the number on the scale. A lot of people generally tell me I don't look my weight at all, maybe closer to 180. But I always tell people that I am just not comfortable.
I've always been a little on the chubby side. In highschool I was probably about 150-160. Had a summer with a lot of bowel issues that we thought were lactose in tolerance and dropped down to 135, but once I hit college it just started climbing. I hit my highest weight when I was pregnant, at 230 lbs, and over the course of the following year had lost 30lbs with Low calorie diets. I had actually seen 199lbs maybe one or two days. I got really excited and let everything slip. Next thing I knew I was climbing again. I recently hit 225lbs again which terrified me. I was 5 pounds away from my highest weight and there was no baby this time.
I found EM2WL probably about 6 months ago through MFP (looks like thats how most people find you guys) and I was super curious, but definitely scared. Later came back and did some more research and started eating at a 20% cut of my TDEE... then read how EM2WL doesnt recommend more than 15% so I bumped it up.
I'm not sure how much I was eating before. I would use MFP here and there when I was in diet mode, but when diet mode was happening I was usually eating around 1400-1500. I havent seen much weight gain with the overall increase. In fact... I'm down 4lbs, but that's where I have been sitting for the last 7 weeks. I've been measuring as well... and down a total of 13 inches since starting in June. I lift heavy 4x a week with some jump rope HIIT just before to kind of get a warm up going. And I do my best to get anywhere from 120-160 g of protein a day (WHICH IS SO HARD!!)
I'm so excited to be starting on this journey. I've been creeping the forum for the last few weeks and everyone seems super nice and helpful so its great to know the support is there.
I'm actually contemplating a reset. I figured I'd be fine without it. But I'm thinking the no weight change may indicate that its necessary. I'm not sure I'm there mentally though. Mainly because Scooby puts my TDEE at 2780 and that... is terrifying!
I've put in that my activity level is moderate but was wondering if this would be right. Like I said I work out with heavy lifting 4x a week, with a short stint of cardio as a warm up. I work as a nurse but its in psychiatry so it isn't as busy as say a medical nurse. I mainly work nights so I am up and about for more hours than most people. Any thoughts?
Super excited to have found you all.
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08-20-2014, 09:43 AM
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RE: Scared out of my Mind!
First of all, welcome! So glad you found us!

Well, it sounds like you are doing great -- losing 4 pounds while increasing calories is great, but losing 13 inches since June is ah-may-zing! Those changes are so much more important than the number on the scale!

So you have been sitting at that 15% deficit for 7 weeks now with no change? If I were you (and if you are mentally prepared), I would definitely try to do the re-set. If you gradually increase your calories by about 100 a day and stay at that level for a week or so before adding another 100 you should be able to keep any weight gain to a minimum. You have your Scooby number, but this will give you a true idea of what your actual TDEE is. Doing a re-set sort of takes the guess work out of it.

Once you work your way up to your TDEE, just stay there at that level for the recommended 8 - 12 weeks and allow everything to stabilize, weight-wise. The general idea is to get to the point where you are eating as much as you can (without seeing gains) and to eat consistently at that level until your body accepts it as "normal". Then, when you take that 15% cut, your body should recognize that as a cut (and not just another yo-yo type diet phase...)

Since not much is happening at this current level, that is the direction I would move in. Keep up the heavy lifting and try to find your true TDEE.

Please keep us updated as to your progress, and also feel free to start a journal in the Personal Journals section of this forum. It's a great place to record your progress and also to interact with others going through the same thing that you are. Like you said, everyone here is very helpful and supportive :-)

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08-20-2014, 10:08 AM
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RE: Scared out of my Mind!
Hi Kelly! I've seen you on MFP and it's so nice to have you join the forums here too! I totally agree with Anitra about the reset and it definitely sounds like the moderate activity level is correct for you with your heavy lifting 4x/wk. The 2780 seems terrifying now, I know. But most women don't realize how much we actually NEED to be eating to support our bodies after years of low calorie dieting. It's totally freeing once you are able to start eating again, so just take the increase slow like Anitra said. Again, welcome! happy

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08-20-2014, 11:06 PM
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RE: Scared out of my Mind!
Thanks guys! Everyone is so nice here.
I've definitely decided on doing the reset.... just need to work up the courage. I've decided that I don't want to jump right up to my TDEE, but I'm fairly close to it. I've jumped up 200 calories for today and will maintain that for a couple days before adding the next 200 and then I'll only be about 50-100 calories away from TDEE. SO much food though I find I have to plan my day in the morning and as my day goes on I go through the list of everything I've said I'll eat.
One thing I am trying to figure out still. I've read bits and pieces about it. Once I'm done my reset and go into a cut, how long is it recommended to do the cut for? Should I eat back at TDEE at some point so my body doesnt get too used to the cut? I know its a long ways away but I'm a planner. lol
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08-21-2014, 04:23 AM
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RE: Scared out of my Mind!
hello and welcome - scary as hell isn't it big grin but don't worry a few weeks time you will wonder how you ever manage dvto eat less food! I have been at reset for about 5 months I reckon - cos I just don't want to give up that food big grin but don't worry am heavy training for an event so decide reset was best

Anyways I digress - with a cut the guys recommend a cut for say 7-8 weeks than a week or maybe 2 back at reset (so your body doesn't see your cut value as your new TDEE) then back to cut - so you can drop in and out when it suit s- ie if you have a holiday or a busy week eat at TDEE - basically its flexible - I believe - this is only my thoughts though - that doing more varied TDEE vs cut works best as you keep your body guessing - so you can do what ever you want 4 weeks on / off etc etc - even a day here and there are TDEE wouldn't do any harm - the only downside will be lower weight loss - however 13" WOW that is am amazing - really well done you big grinbig grin you'll become our new poster girl soon big grin
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08-21-2014, 06:22 AM
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RE: Scared out of my Mind!
Hi Kelly, You've received some excellent insight already! So I'll just say Welcome to the family!!

You can add me on MFP for support if you like!! Username jaeone!!

Joan
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08-21-2014, 06:42 AM (This post was last modified: 08-21-2014 06:43 AM by AnitraSoto.)
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RE: Scared out of my Mind!
(08-20-2014 11:06 PM)KellRell Wrote:  One thing I am trying to figure out still. I've read bits and pieces about it. Once I'm done my reset and go into a cut, how long is it recommended to do the cut for? Should I eat back at TDEE at some point so my body doesnt get too used to the cut? I know its a long ways away but I'm a planner. lol

Yep! You have the right idea. You will want to stay at cut for a couple of months, and then throw in a week or so of eating at TDEE, just to "remind" your metabolism of what "normal" is. You don't want it to get accustomed to that cut value... Like Sarah said, you can often coordinate that "diet break" with something happening in your life (like a vacation, holiday or family event..)

You are going to do great!!

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08-22-2014, 08:20 PM
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RE: Scared out of my Mind!
Thanks for all the support guys! Feels great to know there are others out there with the info and that everyone is so supportive of each other. A lot of people I work with have noticed that I've been eating more and have been asking about what I'm doing... but either people just dont understand or they always caution me. I've been weight training on and off for awhile until this last stretch where I've been very consistent, and Ive always recommended to other women that weight training is the way to go but everyone is so afraid. So its great to be with people who know what's what!
I've been up to 2500 calories every day now, and omg is it so much food!!! But I am loving it!! I think I'll go a couple more days and move up to 2700 and see where the weight goes to figure out TDEE. I'm getting excited to fix it all. Still nervous but super excited now.
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08-22-2014, 09:12 PM
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RE: Scared out of my Mind!
You got it --- and we are here for support along the way!

Anitra Soto
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