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hello and help
09-03-2014, 02:41 AM
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hello and help
hi..

I have been eating at a really low calorie defecit for years.. maybe a sandwich a day and then going out for a meal at weekends with friends.. (dreading it all week leading up to it cause of the weight ill put on and then stressing all the next week about getting it off).. I managed to keep my weight low for a few years doing this but was miserable as not eating with my family and constantly confused about why others could eat a normal meal and not put on weight. I then started to put weight on even doing this and have so far managed to pile on a stone in a year.. then I decided to try the gym and was going twice a day whilst still trying to cut calories .. still didnt lose a lb .. then tried to eat normally and go to the gym.. I have now put on another half a stone..I am trying to not rush back to my old ways of just eating a sandwich a day.. I dont want to live this way and would be so grateful of any support or advice.. I have been eating normally for about 10 days and prior to that for a month on and off with bouts of not eating again.. Is there anyway I will ever lose the weight again and still manage to eat normally .. I probably sound whingey and its kind of taken over my life wtih me constantly scouring the web for advise on metabolism and how to mend it. It cant be that every time I eat a meal I will put on 2lb a day..I am so depressed worried and miserable I dont know what to do. my clothes dont fit but I refuse to buy bigger as I feel like it means I have accepted myweight.. .. I would just like to know if anyone else has gone through this kind of thing and come out the other side.. sorry for such a loooong post.. I feel a little desperate and not sure who I can talk to about it anymore.

Thank you so much in advance

JO
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09-03-2014, 06:13 AM
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RE: hello and help
First of all, welcome! Secondly, yes it is possible to heal your metabolism and eat normally again, but it will not be a quick process. After years of very low cal dieting, it is very likely that your metabolism has simply slowed down to match your intake, and even "rushing back to your old ways" will probably no longer result in any weight loss as it did in the past, because your metabolism has adapted...

In order to help you better, we will need a bit more info about you (age, height, weight, exercise routine, and current calorie level). Have you read The Starter Kit yet so you fully know what to expect? If not, that is a great place to start and will be a wonderful reference as you work your way through the process. If you are looking for individualized, one-on-one guidance along the way, Team EM2WL is also excited to be able to offer coaching services, and we have a number of packages available..

If you do decide to move forward with the EM2WL (and most likely a metabolism reset), it will be necessary to accept the fact that you may gain a bit of weight in the beginning as your body adapts and heals, however, if you take the process slow, some of those gains can be minimized. (This will be a temporary gain, and mostly water weight...)

You also say that "your clothes don't fit and that you refuse to buy bigger clothes, as you fell that this would mean that you have accepted your higher weight". I would highly recommend that you do go out and buy yourself a couple of outfits that make you feel good about you *right now*. This is not a quick process, and honestly, it is just as much mental as physical. Having clothes that fit you now and make you feel good about your body *now* are very important. Besides, even once you start dropping weight, there is a chance that those smaller clothes may no longer fit, just because our body shapes can often change.

Again, welcome! Know that we are here to help guide you through the process, and yes, it is possible to eat normally again. If you have not done it already, I would suggest getting the Starter Kit and reading through some of the blog posts on this website regarding metabolism reset (so that you are mentally prepared).. Get back to us with the answers to those questions above, and we will be happy to help you!

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09-03-2014, 07:31 AM
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hello .. and thank you.. Im 5 ft 4 and currently around 147lb with my lowest being 122 after being ill after an operation and my 'happy' weight being around 130 which was achieved through not eating during the week really to be honest . although I think with the snacking I was doing and kidding myself I wasnt eating I must have been . if that makes any sense.. I am 45 i have been eating about 800 to 1300 calories a day and excercising about 40 mins a day min with cardio Im fairly active with about 8000 steps a day as an average

I have downloaded the starter pack so shall sit and have a read but any advice or tips are gratefully received .. I feel a bit of an idiot to be honest that at my age its taking up so much head space with me .. but I cant seem to be able to walk away from it and just get on with life so need to take control and stop jumping on the scales every time I eat a morsal of food and then feel down becuase yet again they ahve gone up I have even been known to take scales on holiday.. so im giving myself a year to get this sorted before next summer and whilst its winter and I can hide under jumpers.. would just be nice to have someone else that is experiencing the same thing to share things with ..

thank you again for replying I do appreciate it
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09-03-2014, 07:38 AM
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Hi Jo and welcome to the family.

I agree with Anitra. We will need some more info about you to help you wilth your numbers.

I also agree that it is important to feel good about yourself where you are now, that doesn't mean you are accpeting it, but you must love yourself today and make youself look and feel good today.

I am so glad you are here and I am looking forward to supporting you on this journey.wink

Joan
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09-03-2014, 09:02 AM
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Hi

thank you Joan .. I have added some information in the above post.. Im not sure what else you need but if you let me know I will be more than happy to supply it

Many thanks
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09-03-2014, 09:55 AM
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Well, the great thing is that you are willing to give this a year. That is a HUGE leap!

If you go to the Scooby Calculator and enter your info, you will probably come up with a TDEE of about 2,100.

http://scoobysworkshop.com/calorie-calculator/

This is how much you burn each day through all activities (including formal exercise) and how much you need to eat (in theory) to maintain. The problem is that through years of VLCDing, you have probably suppressed your metabolism to the point where it is able to maintain your weight at a much lower level of intake. The object now is to get your metabolism back up and running where it should be and doing a full metabolism re-set.

Go ahead and figure out how many calories you are currently eating (on average), and you will want to gradually increase your calories over time until you get to that 2,100 figure. You could also increase your calories more quickly, but my guess is that you will be happier, long-term, if you do it slower. If you have been averaging 1,000 calories a day, go ahead and bump it up to 1,100 a day and stay there for a week or so, before bumping it up to 1,200. Continue in this manner until you get to 2,100, and then you will stay at 2,100 (your TDEE) and eat at that level for a minimum of 8 - 12 weeks to allow your metabolism to heal.

Although you will want to monitor your weight through this process, you will really also want to try to not become (more) obsessive over the scale. Your weight will fluctuate (and probably a lot) through this process. The ups and downs are completely normal and to be expected. You will want to monitor your weight for long-term trends, but not freak out and want to throw in the towel at every fluctuation along the way, because those fluctuations *will* happen. Preparing yourself mentally is 3/4 of the battle.

I know you said you do primarily cardio. Have you ever considered strength training at all? building a little bit of muscle will not only help your metabolism, but it will also help your body shape and composition.

So glad you have decided to "take the plunge". Feel free to start a journal in the Personal Journals section of this forum. It's a great place to record your progress, and also to interact with others going through the same thing...

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