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Also kinda new and thought I say hello
03-29-2015, 07:16 AM
Post: #1
Also kinda new and thought I say hello
Moin (that´s how we say it in northern germany),

I started being "active" on mfp around a year ago, but fell a bit off during summer and tried to lose weight without logging ( fasting 5:2) after that.
I liked fasting but in certain times of the month it was extremely hard to follow through and I first started to postpone my fasting days and then stopped eventually.

In june I am going to marry and that caused a quiet feeling of panic, so I went into mfp torture mode and went with 1200 calories plus eating back my calories. That´s when I started going for a walk every day - I hate running but love my walks - so I could eat more.

Luckily after around a month I came to my senses and also remembered this group. I joined it already last year but yeah, last minute panic ;-)

Last year I also started lifting heavy (stronglifts 5x5). I loved it, but the results were not really mindblowing - which could be due to the fact that I might have been expecting too much. Then we spent the summer on our camping site with no access to weights etc. so yeah...I became a lazy cow.

Right now I am working on getting back to lifting, because I really love it, and working on my mindset. I have to realize that I should not have unrealistic expectations, that I can become a healthier and fitter version of myself but not like someone else. I have to learn to appreciate myself and my body and concentrate on the results that are good for my health and my strength - the appearance might be a nice side effect.

But it´s not as easy as it sounds of course, I guess you all know that yourself...

I have been reading a lot lately regarding this, purchased the "Train to be awesome guide" from Nia Shanks. She is also working on exactly these things in that program. It´s great.

Oh, I am 37 years old, have kinda always been fighting with my weight - although it was BS. I only became overweight after having my first kid (I have two, one girl, 9 years old and a 6yo boy). But even before I had them I had already tried a lot of diets, fasting for two weeks and other stuff, which of course didn´t do me any good at all. Guess it also didn´t help having a mother who was also always on a diet and always super skinny and judgemental.

Anyway, now I am around 20kg too much and am hovering around the same weight since that time I joined MFP last year. Gained and lost the same 2kg in that time.

My problem is not really the food - I love to cook and aside from these, as mentioned above, certain days, it´s alright. And even on these days I don´t go over the top - or really rarely.

My problem is that I am really lazy and I have a desk job from home. So only very little excercise. I used to work three jobs before, one of them waiting tables 2x/week, so I was in motion way more than now. Now I only have the home office job - which is great because I am able to live from that alone, but health- and fitnesswise it´s very bad for me.

I always need to force myself to get into a fitter lifestyle. When I am in, it´s fine, I start enjoying and wanting it. BUT if for some reason I get out of the streak (sickness whatever) it´s super hard for me to get back to it. Deep inside I am a couch potato who looks at the runners etc. and beats herself up because she is not like that.

Also a thing I am learning right now: I am not a runner, but I don´t have to be. Walking reglarly is also fine. Rather do something you like that beating yourself up the whole time about not getting stuff done you secretly hate.

Uff, yes. Thanks for reading - if you made it until here :-D

cheers, Marsha
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03-29-2015, 11:35 AM
Post: #2
RE: Also kinda new and thought I say hello
http://www.doyouyoga.com/healing-your-bo...nside-out/

Welcome, and read this! It sounds to me like you need to be kinder to yourself happy
You are right, you don't need to run. Do something you like. Start small with adding maybe 2 days of weightlifting into your schedule. Put it in your apt book so its non-negotiable, and if you start to get "eh, I don't want to do this" thoughts when your "appointment" is due, try some positive and real self talk: for me, when I know I am just being kinda lazy and its not that my body needs rest, I always think "you won't regret at least starting this workout, but you definitely will regret not."
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03-29-2015, 05:24 PM
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RE: Also kinda new and thought I say hello
Thanks, Emma :-)

Yes, you're right, I need to work on that. That link does not work unfortunately, but I am going to look for it tomorrow. Right now it's already super late and I am only on the cell...
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03-29-2015, 05:33 PM
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RE: Also kinda new and thought I say hello
forgot the second part. I made myself a spreadsheet for Nias program already. The first three, four workouts will be "hard" but after that I should be in Yay! Workout! Mode...It's fine as long as I don't get sidetracked. Last year doing stronglifts I was so looking forward to the next training, it's weird how fast that can be forgotten...

Your last part is very true! I am always proud and happy when I made it!
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03-29-2015, 06:23 PM (This post was last modified: 03-29-2015 06:29 PM by jaeone.)
Post: #5
RE: Also kinda new and thought I say hello
Hi there,
Yes I agree, you should stop being so hard on yourself! You are worth it!! You deserve the body you want and you kids need you to be heathy!

I am glad you found EM2WL because here this is a lifestyle of eating real food! No fasting, unless its for religious reasons! No foods eliminated unless you have an allergy or religious reasons.. Anytime you do a "diet" that limits or eliminates any food it is really setting you up not to succeed. So like you said you lose and gain the same weight! We have all been there!!

Choosing an activity you like is key!! I loved doing sprints and running when I was 12! Not so much at 50! Now Give me a barbell and some dumb bells, 30-40 minutes and I'm happy!! Schedule time for you, a walk or a workout DVD or a lifting session, 20-30 minutes is a great start!!

Check out the workout section on the home page: there is online coaching, beginners ebook, and lots of other resources to start you on your way. You can even start you own journel here in the forums and make daily or weekly posts on you transformation! Theres lots of support here for you!

I'm jaeone on MFP, you can add me for support!

Joan
Be yourself. Everyone else is taken! kiss

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/jaeone
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03-30-2015, 03:45 AM
Post: #6
RE: Also kinda new and thought I say hello
Morning!

Honestly I am a bit shocked because I didn't even feel like I was being or am being too hard on myself.

But in the end you're right. It's weird because I am usually a very positive and optimistic person. I guess if you would meet me in person you wouldn't think I was self conscious or didn't have much confidence...

Obviously I am already faking it for ages (read an article on Nia Shanks regarding that subject http://www.niashanks.com/?s=Fake+it+ ).

Problem seems to be that I am faking it for others which doesn't really help me in the long run...Gotta think about that a bit more. It's a bit of an aha moment right now.

Thanks for your advice and the offer :-)
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03-30-2015, 06:32 PM
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Welcome! So glad to have you here!

Anitra Soto
Team EM2WL
ISSA Certified Fitness Trainer
ISSA Certified Specialist in Senior Fitness

My EM2WL Journey: http://eatmore2weighless.com/never-too-old-anitra/
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04-01-2015, 11:23 AM
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Thank you :-)
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