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Fresh Start @ 55...need advice
06-11-2016, 05:03 PM (This post was last modified: 06-11-2016 05:04 PM by daphne67.)
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RE: Fresh Start @ 55...need advice
I recently was looking at some photos of myself from the past. I saw a beautiful woman. But I knew on the inside that I as at war with myself, my weight and my image. When I looked at the older photos, I thought, "wow, why didn't I appreciate what I looked like then!"

It was a lightbulb moment. Aha! Why not appreciate what I look like now! Since then, when I look into the mirror, instead of focusing on the negatives, I say, "you are a beautiful woman."

And when I see myself in a reflection, I repeat the mantra, "you are a beautiful woman." And I'm going to continue to say it until I really, really, believe it with all my heart.
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06-11-2016, 07:42 PM
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We all need to step back and learn to love and appreciate ourselves today. After all, we are not guaranteed tomorrow... It would be so sad to look back on our lives and realize we wasted it away waiting for better times to come. I love your new mantra!

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06-13-2016, 11:22 PM
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Daphne, I've read your journey and just loved it, every single bit of it! Kudos for being so update, what a great inspiration! I wish we all had know this way of lofe way before instead of being stuck in the mentality that we should not eat, period. That slimmer and smaller is better, even if it's unhealthy.
Please keep posting your updtades!

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06-21-2016, 12:35 PM
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Thank you Tereza for your encouragement!

The "you-are-a-beautiful woman" mantra continues. Here's what I've noticed...my husband is *noticing* the shift in my attitude. I haven't said anything to him but there's more of a romantic feeling between us. Nice after 25 years!

*I'm dressing better and paying closer attention to what makes me feel pretty.
*I'm paying closer attention to what tastes good to me.
*I am less judgemental of others. (Now, when I see an overweight woman, I have sympathy for her. I know that it's underrating that got her there, not gluttony).

On the workout front, I'm starting phase 3 of Rachel Cosgrove's program. And I'm loving it more the second time around. I'm currently preparing my home workout gym...gearing myself for STS in August.

Today, I'm wearing a summer skirt that I bought in 2009 and haven't been able to wear for a few years. My waist looks very trim!
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10-28-2016, 10:09 PM
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Still here. What an incredible journey.

To be honest, I don't track anything. I can't. Too many years of tracking everything - points, grams of fat, grams of carbs, etc.

But I do monitor what I eat - protein at every meal. Plenty of good fats, carbs and vegetables. Some treat foods. I just read some really good info a thttp://www.youreatopia.com. Her science approach to overcoming eating disorders came by way of Kiki from a FB post.

Takeaway: The average calorie needs for women over 25 is 2500 calories. Full stop.

Not ever, as a teen, or a young woman did I ever, imagine that I was supposed to eat 2500 calories. I have been trying to under eat since I was 16 years old!

It's amazing my body put up with me all this long. I never had a full blown eating disorder but it's always been there, that niggling voice that would say, "not too much, watch yourself."

Thankfully, that voice is tamed. Not gone but quieted.

I will never, never starve myself again. I pledge to myself that I will always nourish my body to the best of my abilities.

I started my journey here in February of this year, 2016 and it's been the most dramatic year for me, in regards to my history of dieting.

My only advice to all the others on this forum, is to give yourself permission to nourish your body, physically, emotionally & spiritually.

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10-28-2016, 10:34 PM
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Daphne, thank you so much for the update! Yes, this journey is incredible and even if it is a rollercoaster, it only gets better!

The article you mentioned is really powerful and mind blowing! I battled with eating disorders for a long time and it always felt like it wasn't a big deal or was something from my mind back then, the doctors I saw didn't think it was anything more than foolishness. I wish I knew I needed 2500 + when I was a teen or a young adult. Now at 41 I won't take anything less than that on a rest day!

You are doing a great job and by realizing and accepting that you need to nourish your body, you are already many miles ahead.

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10-29-2016, 10:04 AM
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Hi-five Daphne! Thanks for posting that.
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10-29-2016, 11:35 AM
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Thanks Tereza & Emma!

My other takeaway from that article is that some days you're going to eat more, some days less. Some other important lessons learned from Anita & Kiki:

1. Understand the patterns in your hunger.
For me, I get hungry at about 11 am and then dinnertime. I follow my hunger's lead and have a hearty meal twice a day. I try to add foods that I've denied myself and I really like. For instance, lunch might be a grilled ham and cheese sandwich, a salad and small bowl of potato chips (always previously forbidden). I always end a meal with a few square of chocolate.

2. This pattern isn't set in stone.
Meaning, this isn't another diet. It's my life and things change and hunger changes daily too. Yesterday, I was ravenous at 9:30 am so I had a proper breakfast with eggs, toast and bacon.

3. I eat real foods.
For me, I consider protein powders, bars, etc. in the fake food category. Part of the experience of food is it should be a pleasurable experience. Thankfully, we have access to all sorts of wonderful real foods - eggs, sausage, beef, tuna, cottage cheese. I choose to eat only real foods.
I did try protein powders early, discovered that whey protein disagreed with me, so I stopped. I want to eat in a way that is sustainable for the rest of my life.

Again, I'm so thankful for this forum and the people who run it and support it!
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10-29-2016, 08:51 PM
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Wow, Daphne, you did come a long way in realizing that this id YOUR life, YOUR journey and you can make YOUR rules! Wtg in listening to your body and feeding and fueling properly!

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05-22-2017, 11:57 AM
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Just checking in...it's been a while.

I did set up my home gym and am currently in phase 2 of STS - and loving it. I cannot believe how good my life is now. I eat the things I love, (that I used to deny): pasta, pizza, chocolate, fruit (low carbing is such a burden), even cookies and gasp, yogurt with fruit in it. Last night we made lasagne with fresh, homemade lasagne noodles and it was fabulous!

I do not count, measure, or weigh anything. I do not read articles or books on "how to eat less", "how to lose weight", "how to get a six-pack".

Yes, I've had my struggles in the process, but I just never gave up. Giving up was not an option. And then just recently, I hit a new milestone -- I woke up just feeling slimmer. I have a few clothing pieces that I use to check progress and voila! It's true, my waist is smaller, my stomach is flatter. And I feel so strong! The only thing I've done differently is that I've added in a 30 minute walk 4x a week. Not to burn calories but to get outside and feel the fresh air.

I do not weigh myself - in fact, it's been about five years or so since I stepped on a scale. There is nothing but pain and grief attached to that horrible piece of metal. I'm not even tempted to step on it today. I know I would only be disappointed -- or thrilled...it just messes with my mind.

Again, good vibes to everyone on the forums - don't give up!
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